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My postpartum journey 1 year later…

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Oh! The mom guilts. It was literally shoved into me the day I pushed Freya out. It was like here is your baby but here is all the guilt you will experience for being a woman that birth a child. Mom guilt never ends as annoying as it is. The mom guilt kicks into full gear anytime and any moment you don’t want it to. You work too much, or you don’t work enough, you spend soo much time with your baby or you don’t spend enough time with your baby. It all soo minute. You can have it all, do it all and it still wouldn’t be enough because mom guilt isn’t even about that. Its psychological and the only way out is self-love, discipline and ignoring the negative talk. Continue reading My postpartum journey 1 year later…

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Friendships

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“You know someone’s special to you when… you don’t talk for a while because things get busy but when you two eventually do it’s like you didn’t miss a beat. You talk like there was no gap in between and you laugh until both your stomachs hurt. It’s a rare and special connection and personally I think it’s pure magic. If you ever find someone like this in your life, never let them go.”

thank you for being here, friend. Continue reading Friendships

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Losing Baby Weight While Breastfeeding?

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So here is how I did NOT lose weight while breastfeeding. I just wasnt one of those lucky moms. I was the mom that ate whatever I want, whenever I want while I was breastfeeding because I felt I was never full and always hungry. I was feeding Freya for 10-12x a day and the weight did not budge. I gained about 10kg during pregnancy and dropped 4 kg once I left the hospital with the baby. 1 month postpartum I dropped another 2 kg and by 6 months postpartum I was still 3 kg above pre-pregnancy weight. These are just numbers, and I don’t take them seriously, but I wanted to write it down for context. Continue reading Losing Baby Weight While Breastfeeding?

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Why do We Lose Muscle Mass during Pregnancy even When We are Working Out ?

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When building muscles we need certain variables in training such as time under tension, progressive overload, and volume which means more sets and sometimes reps.

Time under tension means – the amount of time a muscle is held under tension or strain during an exericse set. For example; having to hold a weight or your body weight while in a squat position or press position at every rep which sometimes requires mama to hold your breath a little longer than usual.

Progressive overload means: Increasing the resistance of the weight overtime safely but in a challenging way. And sometimes pregnant mamas cannot do that without causing more pressure on the bump or the baby.

Lastly, to gain muscles, we don’t just need more weights, but we also need volume. More days in training, more sets of deadlifts and bent over rows etc. Having 2-3 more training days to target a certain body part which so Continue reading Why do We Lose Muscle Mass during Pregnancy even When We are Working Out ?

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My breastfeeding Journey

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I had to change my negative self-talk, to talk nicely to myself, to be gentle and not be soo demanding with myself. I was in the shower the other day (I know. It seems like everyone get their epiphany in the shower) and I heard myself say, I will be 6 months postpartum soon, I SHOULD be…. And then I caught myself and think, wait what. No! I shouldn’t be anything! My postpartum journey will happen for me when the time is right. I just have to put my head down and keep grinding. It isn’t easy for sure. But there is no SHOULD, there is no time frame to follow as to when I will feel 100% like myself. It all will happen for me. I need to change my self-talk to; yes maybe by 6 months postpartum I should try to be able to do 5 unassisted pull ups again. And if I don’t. maybe 3? Alright then. It is all hard, I know. Continue reading My breastfeeding Journey

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How heavy is your load?

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There is an internal desire to maintain loads and keep lifting as heavy as before through pregnancy.
But how much is too much?
When you are pregnant, form, structure, pressure, tension naturally changes. Therefore, we must adapt to the ever-changing body for support.
So… the real question is how the load is impacting the pressure on the midline and pelvic floor as the body continue to change.
Continue reading How heavy is your load?