So I was talking to one of my closest friend the other day and I realize our friendship is no longer the same, lately, it has been molded and shifted in so many different ways that it got me thinking.

Is it too much to have expectations in a friendship?

No one likes the feeling of losing friends but as we get older it is actually inevitable. It becomes a thing that we have to actively work for all the time, it doesn’t just fall on our laps anymore. Career gets in the way, dating gets in the way and even terrible time management gets in the way. Sometimes we just grow apart, and there’s really just nothing to talk about anymore. Other times, you have tried to reach out but there’s just no response, or she reached out but you didn’t care. It is a group effort, it is actually work.

It is a group effort, it is actually work.

Growing apart is inevitable especially when you’re no longer in school and you just don’t see that same group of friends all day everyday anymore. And as much as you wish that friendship would continue to grow and flourish as life keeps going till you have found the cure for AIDS and save the whole world (dramatic effect). Sometimes some friendships are better to let go than to hold on.

Sometimes some friendships are better to let go than to hold on.

Because sometimes it is just as damaging to hold on to something that is no longer there than to hold on, that it is only hurting you as much as it is hurting the other party. Well, we all know life has a funny way of throwing curve balls right? So you never know right? Maybe you’ll meet years from now and become even better friends than before, because maybe just maybe some friendships just need a little time out too.

Good luck!

XO!